Elephant at Play

I am such a sucker for elephant videos.  This one is only three minutes and I guarantee a smile! The elephants in India appeared to be well cared for because they were their handlers source of  income. They were bathed daily,well fed, wore elephant jewelry of necklaces and anklets, and their faces were painted.  But they were always chained to keep them from wandering off when not in use for the entertainment of the tourists.  I love that the young elephant in the video is  not chained and is playing freely.

 

Have you seen an elephant play?  Are you surprised at how like a puppy or little child this gentle giant is as she plays? 

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Music Monday Steely Dan “My Old School”

This selection has a twofold dedication. . . . . for good old Robert E. Lee High School and my classmates who reconnected last weekend.  And because Steely Day was in concert at Saratoga Performing Arts Center and was the reason David didn’t join me at the reunion.

Steely Dan is an American  jazz/rock band from upstate New York that toured from 1972-1975 when they returned to make music in the  studio.  ” My Old School” was popular in 1973.  The lyrics are “cerebral, wry and eclectic” yet still  using the popular  themes of drugs, love affairs, and crime  and just perfect for the graduate students in architecture at the University of Virginia when my husband was there.

I first was going to use “Bodhisattva”  which is poking fun at  westerners who go to the east to learn about Buddhism.  It was hard to chose as the songs are all pretty special.

Do you have a favorite Steely Dan song?

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The Heart of the Reunion

So much has changed in our lives, the country , and in our world since graduation. . . . . love, death, pain, loss, weight gain, gray hair, health challenges, computers, blogs, email ,  disappointments . . . . to name  a few. What if we are not remembered or welcomed ?  We would have to add that blow to your egos from long ago in Staunton, Virginia.   Could we just laugh and remember, at least for a few days our hopes, dreams, and  friends?  I couldn’t articulate those feelings of vulnerability a while back when my dear friend Page was encouraging me to come back for the reunion. I  said honestly that I didn’t want to drive all  that way  by myself, and that was a biggie!   Page suggested the train, which I love or contacting Anne near Syracuse to ride together.  She just wouldn’t take no for an answer.  Riding with Anne became a reality.  The 7 plus hours of the trip going and coming flew by.  We did have a laugh when she wanted me to navigate…..Who moi?   She was”driving Miss Anne.” as my children  say or “On Miss Anne duty!”   All said affectionately, I am sure!   This set the atmosphere of sharing and laughing that continued the weekend.

I am not going to recount the activities but will share a few photos.

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The old birds look pretty good, don’t we? Kay, Jo, me, and  Page   This was the opening reception. . . .

Saturday night was the dinner /dance and my favorite part was the photo booth from our youth  at Woolworth’s in downtown Staunton.  There were props for funny pictures, but I just like the pictures.

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Here I am with our perpetual senior president, Bill.  He was and is everyone’s friend!

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Here am I with Page, and Anne, my driver!

Finally, here is a picture from the Sunday Brunch:

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Dear old friends: Mary Anne, Cecily , Page and me. . . . .

The years seemed to be  stripped away if only for  the  weekend.  The only “old person talk” I heard were stories of knee operations from all the athletic people in our class and the miracle of modern cataract surgery.

I was with a group that was together until late in the afternoon on Sunday.   We seemed still full of things to share and a need to prolong our time together.  As we lingered until the end , a few of the classmates remembered feelings of  ” invisibility  and inadequately ”  during our high school years. The ugly head of past feelings had wormed its way into the weekend.  Each who wanted to share those old feelings did so uninterrupted as we all stood silently and respectfully acknowledging  that all of us understood.  It was a part of growing up . . . . a passage.

Just as this time of reunion weekend  together is a passage into another season of our lives.

I would love to hear of others’ reunion experiences. 

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Pow Wow

11505669This local Pow Wow has become a family tradition.  This year, my Onondaga daughter was with us.  Some of the Iroquois from Syracuse  were there selling  traditional crafts and corn soup and fry bread.   The drumming filled the air, as well as the ethereal sound of the flute.

I loved that they use all the parts of the animals including the dried  tendons  as strong tying material.  Skins were for sale and dancing sticks with skins, and bells were made by the visiting children.  Natives and non-natives alike are welcomed into the circle to dance after being smudged with smoke as a purifying act.

This Pow Wow is small in contrast to much larger ones in Arizona and New Mexico.  But looking back, those seem much more commercial, while this has a feeling and spirit of authenticity.

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One of the vendors had copies of “Native American Code of Ethics” which listed 20 items.  I decided to choose a few for you to see.

1. Rise with the sun to pray. Pray alone, pray often. The Great Spirit will listen, if only you speak.

2.  All persons make mistakes.  And mistakes can be forgiven.

3.  Nature is not FOR us, it is a PART  of us. Nature is part of your worldly family.

4.  Share your good fortune with others.  Participate in charity.

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http://www.news10.com/story/23365657/pow-wow-in-east-greenbush

pictures from public domain

Have you been to a Pow Wow or some similar ethic festival? 

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“With Impunity”

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    Yesterday, former Governor of Virginia, Bob McDonald left the Richmond Virginia courtroom, head bowed , a convicted felon. It was a dramatic and salacious fall from grace.  He had been a popular, pro-business, fiscal conservative as well as socially conservative governor.  A man of great faith and a possible candidate for higher office.

    But below the surface was a family in financial irresponsibility and  a crumbling marriage. The McDonald’s chose to  take money and gifts from Virginia businessman,  Johnny Williams to continue this facade.  Then the shocker was his  defense of  airing the details of a dysfunctional family to the lengths  of accusing Maureen, his wife, as a woman totally out of control. The essential question was whether there was a quid pro quo or exchange of influence as a result of the gifts and money.  The jury decided that there had been.  This is illegal  and corrupt.

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    noun \ˌkwid-ˌprō-ˈkwō\

    : something that is given to you or done for you in return for something you have given to or done for someone else

    For me, because of my heritage and I have to admit curiosity , I read everything I could find on the case.  All was  stripped away after weeks of witnesses, and binders of papers to this one question:

    Would Johnnie Williams have given all those gifts and money unless he expected something in return from the Governor of Virginia?  I don’t think so.  As sad as it makes me, it appears the jury got it right. In January, the sentence of prison time will be announced for Governor and Mrs. McDonald.

    Though, this is the  first time a sitting governor or former Governor of Virginia was accused and convicted , there have been other politicians who  also acted with impunity.  Remember John Edwards who was running for President? Here he is with his wife, Elizabeth.

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    John Edwards was revealed to be philandering husband during the time his wife was dying with cancer and later was charged with financial corruption in his campaign  for the presidency.  He was convicted but avoided prison on a technicality.

    And do you remember Governor Spitzer from New York?

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    As Attorney General in New York, he had worked to convict white collar crimes and called prostitution, “modern day slavery.”  He committed those crimes himself.  He violated his oath of office and broke moral and state laws.  He avoided a trial and conviction because he  voluntarily resigned.

    What causes these talented, intelligent, and well educated men to make such glaringly poor  choices? I think it is a feeling of impunity or entitlement and no fear of accountability because of a position of power.  There are other universal acts committed with impunity for another post.

    But this is not new to our time and place.  King David, the king after God’s own heart, the greatest king of Israel also committed crimes  with impunity.

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    This was the first step of his fall from grace, that included adultery and planning the murder of Bathsheba’s husband so he could have her for his wife. King David, too, suffered as the results of his acts with  impunity.

    All these men are connected in their thoughts of superiority above the law, thinking  they could escape the results of breaking  moral, fiscal, and natural law.  They didn’t.  I believe there is a universal hope, longing, and even expectation  in the midst of this fallen world for:

    “Liberty and justice for all!”  — from the American Pledge of Alliance

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    I would love to hear your comments and thoughts.. . . . . .  

    images from public domain  

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Staunton’s “Other Park”

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There are two parks in the small city of Staunton, Virginia.   During the time of segregation, whites were able to use Gypsy Hill Park at will, but the black residents of the city were only allowed to visit the park one day each year. Shortly after WWII, the black community leaders requested  more availability to Gypsy Hill. The city council purchased a historic farm call Montgomery Hall for $42,oo0 and placed the park in the hands of the black community.  Montgomery Hall was one of only two black parks in the state of Virginia.  (from the Staunton Visitor Center)

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“A fine looking negro woman aged about 28 years, belonging to Mr. Joseph Cline, living about four miles from Staunton, becoming unruly, and  he determined to bring her to town and sell her. While she was going to get her clothes, she picked up an axe , she had concealed, and deliberately cut three of her fingers off, taking two  licks at them. . . . .She did the act for the double purpose of preventing her sale and taking revenge upon her master.”

I can imagine that for many of my international blogger friends, this situation is quite shocking, and well it should be. It is part of my culture and history. Did the southern United States start slavery?  No.  But should we have been more aware of these human beings and their suffering.  Yes, of course.  As uncomfortable as it is for us, the white children of Staunton to be confronted with these details, “It just was the way it was!”

In the words of Jane Gray Avery (Historian)

“I know of no other park property (Montgomery Hall Park)  that can trace its history from a plantation, made successful by the efforts of the enslaved people who lived there between 1822 and 1865 to a park creates as a haven for and run by the African American community. . . .”

In 2014  Staunton, there are opportunities to learn about the African American Heritage at the Frontier Culture Museum by touring the West African Farm exhibit from where many of the early slaves had come.   There is a large and popular African-American Festival  in the fall each year,  the largest in western Virginia. Today about 12% of Staunton’s population is African American.

I am including a ping-back to a post I wrote about Growing Up in the Jim Crowe South for anyone who might like to read more of my personal story in Staunton. (Left click below)

https://talesalongtheway.com/2014/01/21/the-jim-crow-south/

I would love to hear your thoughts. . . .. hard or not. . . . .We must continue to “shine light in the darkness.”

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Staunton, Virginia

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Here in a  small town in the  historic Shenandoah Valley of Virginia, the only home I knew as I grew from baby to my late teens, is my high school.    This past weekend, my graduating class returned  to Staunton for the “big” reunion.

Our high school is still perched on its high hill, but instead of  halls filled with teenagers at lockers on the way to classes, the building is now home for retired , often ill citizens.  I for one, find it sad that if the building is sound enough for apartments, that it is no longer used as  a school. A new Lee High was built a few years ago across town.  In this instance “progress ruled over tradition” as it often does.

Because I am having a jumble of thoughts about the weekend with no coherent  theme, I am starting with a few  pictures  for you before I tackle the heart of the matter.

The class met in downtown Staunton at the Stonewall Jackson Hotel. Would you  expect a hotel  named for anyone less than  General Lee’s favorite general?

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It is elegantly restored and renovated. Many long years ago, it was the site of our wedding reception.

Ah, but I have gotten off topic already. . . . Here is a little of the background of my home town from http://www.historicstaunton.org

” Staunton  is a unique community of six historic districts made up of cohesive neighborhoods and a central business district. Houses and historic businesses with elegant landscapes date back to the 19th century boom town growth. ” 

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Main Street is busy with unique shops and street theater on the weekends.

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Substantial and well preserved homes. . . . . . .
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 A well used and loved city park complete with a band shell for summer concerts.
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This is Thornrose Cemetery, the resting place of generations of my family. I felt  a very strong pull to pay them a visit and my friend Page, was willing to join me. This is a beautiful garden cemetery with lovely trees and flowering bushes. I have many memories of  taking Christmas  wreaths with my Mama for the family as well as Sunrise Services early Easter Sunday morning.
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Honestly, I had thought I might be overcome with emotion and  memories of the past.  I was swamped with all sorts of memories  but not overcome by any. It was fun to drive around town, as a visitor and yet a daughter.  I am glad I came. . . . images (16)
Have you ever gone to a family or school reunion?  Was it a positive experience? 
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Dinosaur 13, 2014 Documentary ( T-Rex Named Sue)

  1. When Paleontologist Peter Larson and his team from the Black Hills Institute made the world’s greatest dinosaur discovery in 1990, they knew it was the find of a lifetime: the largest, most complete Tyrannosaurus Rex ever found. But during a ten-year battle with the U.S. government, powerful museums, Native American tribes and competing paleontologists, they found themselves not only fighting to keep their dinosaur but fighting for their freedom as well.
    Many bloggers feel that the US government is usurping the people’s rights. I have always been a tad suspicious of conspiracy theorists. But  this documentary is a dramatic example of concern.  We all must do our part, if it is only to vote responsively, to be involved, educated citizens.  
    I am very interested in your thoughts!
     
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The Reunion

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I have always heard that it is impossible to  “go home.”  Obviously, this is a metaphor for the years and wisdom and growth each of us  has lived,  making it impossible to return to the beginning.  But  on reunion weekends, people try, going to their hometown high school , visit with first friends, reminiscence,  and remember.

It is the friends from long ago , and some with-whom I have kept up who are the real reason I’m  going.  We knew each other before we were defined by  a mate, profession , family.

I have decided not to take the computer which honestly is causing me withdrawal. This will be a weekend of laughter, maybe some tears, memories, renewing friendships, and   sadness that my family is all gone.  I will visit them in the cemetery.  I will be home back in New York  on Tuesday with lots of stories to tell you !

Ah, the anticipation, excitement, trepidation. . . . all go together make me feel  that I am “going home!”

Ta ta for now!

Do you go to your reunions?  How were they? 

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Ahmedabad Heritage Video

 

This is the newest in the videos about Ahmedabad where we were and will be located in India. When Mr. Modi was the Chief Minster of this state, he had a series of videos produced showing  tourist sites in Gujarat to encourage tourism.  The actor is Amitabh Bachchan who is one of the most recognizable and beloved actors in all of India. I read that when he came to Gujarat he fell in love with  the sites and people of Gujarat. I can attest, that is easy to do !

This Is Incredible India!

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