Response for Anna Dugger

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World map showing the users of the data base that was hacked of Ashley Madison information.

 This is a brief introduction in  case you are not familiar with the huge scandal in the US of the hacking of a site called Ashley Madison which advertised as a post for married people to have affairs, secretly.  But as happens, the site was hacked  and names are being released.  Josh Dugger  is the oldest son of a very conservative Christian family who has  admitted to molesting in his past,  his sisters and some other girls by touching them inappropriately.  Now he is married to Anna and they have 4 children. Josh was outed as having two accounts on Ashley Madison.  This post is brilliant reflection on this sad state of affairs. . . . pun intended!   I am a conservative Christian, and  I agree totally with Jessica ! Thank you Jessica Krammes Kirkland.

Jessica Krammes Kirkland feeling like I’m fixing to preach about some Duggars

I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it’s so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let’s talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her “duty” of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. “Be this,” they told her. She was. It wasn’t enough.

What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can’t divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.

As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren’t given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don’t have to marry a man their father deems “acceptable” and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn’t, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he’s in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say “I don’t deserve this, and my children don’t deserve this.” I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.

About annetbell

I am a retired elementary teacher, well seasoned world traveler,new blogger, grandmother, and a new enthusiastic discoverer of the wonderfully complex country of India. Anne
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13 Responses to Response for Anna Dugger

  1. amaya911 says:

    Reblogged this on Life of an El Paso Woman and commented:
    Good post.

  2. ShaunyNews says:

    Wait till ALL the names come out. Lets just say certain people are about to be crushed. I note you mentioned Religion in here….Anne, this is just the start. I might know a few more names and this isn’t a story I want to cover as it will make anger and denial. The Church and Religion is about to be rocked….But the Political spectrum more so…

    People have a go at Anonymous and Masks….
    You just shared Anonymous work right here…

    Good share!!

  3. Chrid says:

    Omg really, yes Anna Is a victim, but no education is why she can’t leave Josh, that’s a cop out, I know a lot of single moms & dads that work 2 jobs to support their kids, McDonalds,Walmart,BK etc is beneath her, if she divorced him, she will get custody & child support & alimony, but she can’t leave!! Yes she can, I feel for her, but that’s a lame excuse to stay with a child molesting, cheating a-hole!! JS

    • annetbell says:

      You are right , of course, but I think the point is that Anna has never been exposed to that option. Right or wrong, she has lived her life by the culture and faith of her family.
      I hope she will be encouraged not to lose her faith but to protect her children. Thanks for the comment.

  4. Reblogged this on ' Ace Friends News ' and commented:
    Added your post here as well http://flip.it/D9qq4

  5. Jacqueline says:

    The woman who wrote this comment, that is being shared by many, is incorrect. Anna was well aware that Josh had molested his sisters before she married him. Yet she still chose to marry him and have his children. Her brother and sister were both raised in the same cult, yet they do not live this lifestyle. Yes, it is a cult that does subjugate women, however, there are thousands of women who were not raised in a cult, who live in abusive relationships. Anna has chosen to make herself a “victim”. She married into this family for fame and money as well. She can leave, get an education and move on. It is not easy, but it has been done by many before her. Boys are not born with power, it is taught. We need to teach our young men to respect women. We need to teach young women to respect themselves. As well as, teach young people the early warning signs of an abusive relationship, and run from it.

    • annetbell says:

      Thank you Jacueline. Honestly I do not know Anna Dugger’s educational background. My point in posting this is hope that she will be able to protect her children and herself and move on. Coming from such a very sheltered background, it certainly will be difficult. I pray she will have good counsel and be brave enough to do what is necessary. God bless Anna and her children! I appreciate you taking the time to respond, Jacqueline!

  6. What an incredibly sad story 😦

  7. Thank you for the follow. I do hope Anna can pick up the pieces of her life, and not lose her faith. Unfortunately, I don’t think she will leave him.

  8. reocochran says:

    I feel Jessica’s essay has some great and positive benefits. I appreciated her “calling out” to us, telling us women need to be taught to be independent, learn something, whether a trade, job or education driven future. Centering on children in our long lives, will only take you through about 20 years of being needed. I was raised by a mother who was a teacher, I had a great babysitter and always felt my foundation was firm to make independent decisions. We learned to “question authority” to not always believe what we were told and to debate, know the reasons why we don’t see eye to eye with people and then, make sure we let them know we can “Agree to disagree.” So many young people, they follow things or subjects like sheep. They vote this way, too.
    I am not sure about Anna’s life before this happened but the Christians I know say she has a choice and doesn’t have to stay. This makes me feel better for Anna, hopefully for women around the world who are also caught in trapped lives or marriages. Thanks for this forum and I enjoyed the comments and post.

    • annetbell says:

      Oh Robin, you are so precious. I so enjoy your thoughtful responses. I do wish more people would spend half the time you do to think and respond! But I am happy they stop by at all. Yes, if there is infidelity or abuse there is no question as a Christian to end the marriage. I do hope Anna and those four little ones will be ok. I hope she will get support from her family and the church, too, I am sure. I do hope that as someone said, she has an education and at least not have to start there under all this stress. Your mom sounds like a terrific mother and gave you the tools you need to make your way in this world. Thanks so much for stopping by and commenting. Do have a lovely weekend!

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